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“It’s You – Not Me”
I want to tell you of my own experience with the Child Protective System (CPS). When I took my first kids – 3 brothers, 8, 10. 12 – I had no intention of adoption. Their mother went into rehab … Continue reading
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The Measure of an Adult
When I was in high school math class, it intrigued the heck out of me that there were some kind of equations that had more than one correct answer. If you stopped at the first answer, because it worked, and … Continue reading
If A Relationship Is Not A “We”, Then What Is It?
When you adopt a kid from the foster care system, especially a teen, and more especially one who was living in an institution (the old orphanages), you have to recognize that their experiences have led them to thinking – and not … Continue reading
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Perspectives Part Two (over a decade later): Stories and Musings of a Now Old Man
I’m an old man now, by any measure: I’ll be 75 in September. But I’m still working full-time. I have a twenty year old whose adoption I finalized 15 months ago. And I reopened my foster care license two months … Continue reading
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A Broken Heart Is Not the Same As A Closed Heart
I was at a meeting last week where adoption workers and supervisors from different counties got together in an attempt to find families for kids who are in particular need – kids who have no one personal in their lives at … Continue reading
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Catch-22
Okay, I’m back. Or more accurately, I think I’m back. It’s been six months since I made a blog entry and I can’t believe that it has been that long. Where have I been? Busy, of course. What else could … Continue reading
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The Anti-Power of Wimpiness
Note: As I quoted Rod Stewart’s line in his song, “Mandolin Wind,” in another context: “Oh, the snow fell without a break….Through the coldest winter in almost fourteen years…” Having a school kid at home, when school is cancelled on … Continue reading
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Forget The Blah Blah: It Was Eight Degrees
Ordinarily, I am in bed by 10, as I have to get up at 5:30 because my grandson has to leave for the bus at 6:20. But last night, watching a recording of the “Soul Train Awards” which were honoring … Continue reading
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Arrogance
I was having a conversation the other day with a man who has a long history in twelve step programs. He told me that as a result of that history, he lives in his “own little bubble.” I started to … Continue reading
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Not Getting It
Over the past few months, I have come to the realization that I still don’t get it when it comes to our kids who end up in foster care, especially institutions. The depth of their fear and the horror of … Continue reading
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